We have all heard this phrase before. “Your past can either be an albatross around your neck, or the wind beneath your wings.” There is a true saying that reminds me that the past is just what it is…. THE PAST. We cannot undo the past. However, we can move forward with renewed action toward a better future for ourselves. It is difficult to accept the bad things and wrong things that you suffered through. So, rid your mind of the past. If you do not, you will keep reliving it.
You have a choice of burying the past or reliving it. Trust yourself in moving forward because the secret of trust does not lie in answers, but rather it lies in acceptance. It is knowing that in the midst of whatever has happened, is happening, or will happen that God is in control. It has been said “to accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.”
You cannot undo what has happen in your life. Either you fix your mind on the future and be determined to live again or live with its ghosts. The choice is yours to make. Rehashing old hurts is like watching the same movie over and over, hoping for a different outcome. It is not going to happen. Learn from the past and move on. The saying is “you do not drown by falling into the water, you drown by staying there.”
To many people are playing the blame game. Blaming yourself for what has happened is nothing but a waste of time and energy. When you blame yourself you multiply guilt, chain yourself to the past, and increase your already low self-esteem. Know that self-care is never a selfish act; however, it is simply good stewardship of the only gift you have which is the gift you were put on earth to offer to others. It is a God-given gift. The great actor Lucille Ball said “love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
So, stop blaming yourself for your situation. When you blame yourself, you cut yourself off from the power of God. Doubt replaces trust, and you put down roots of bitterness that make you cynical. When you blame yourself, you add to the distance between God and you, and you lose the only option that works – forgiveness. Instead, trust the One who promised to make all things new and move forward with your life. And Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never Give Up!