Each day that passes can bring with it difficult challenges. And so, we never know how these challenges will affect us. Resiliency is a quality that we all need in order to cope and recover from illness, adversity or other extremely tough times.
When problems like medical and trauma, depression, or an illness occur, we have no other choice but to find a way to cope with the problem. Here are a few coping mechanisms that studies have shown people with high resiliency use to deal with traumatic events:
- Having positive thoughts about the outcome of your problem is one coping strategy. Looking on the bright side keeps you going and going. This is not to say that you are delusional about the outcome of your situation. It just means that you believe that things will work out to your benefit. It is said that “resilient people who need to survive the harshest situations and still accomplish goals, balance a positive outlook with a realistic view of the world.”
- Facing your fears can help with coping with your situation. Neuroscience says “there is only one real way to deal with fear; you need to face it head on because this is what most resilient people do. When we avoid scary things, we become more scared. When you face your fears, they become less frightening.”
- You should have a spiritual-moral awareness that there is a greater power working daily on behalf of all humanity and that you are not the only person that has a problem. The emotionally resilient people have a strong sense of right and wrong. They have the resolve to think about others, not just about themselves.
- You should seek social support. If you’re not part of a community, friends and love ones are your support. When you are going through a crisis, you need someone who can listen and not be judgmental. Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone and call your best friend. However, I advise you not to tweet, Facebook, Instagram, You Tube or use other social media to talk about your most personal issues because once your business is out there, it’s out there.
- Practicing spirituality has been found to be number one in coping with difficult problems. When studying people who overcame tragedy, it was found that much of their strength came from religious activity because they were a part of a community that reinforced their beliefs.
You don’t have to do anything you don’t believe in, but you do need to be a part of something that will help strengthen your resolve to fight through the storms of life. Find the source or atmosphere that can help you cope with difficult problems. So Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never Give Up!
By Chaplain Ghosten