Do you ever feel like you just don’t have the energy to move forward? Well, it just might be that pursuing too many opportunities is weighing you down. Perhaps your opportunities, or what you thought were opportunities, have now turned into obligations.

Let’s say you have three teenagers who each play sports and each one wants you to come watch them play this week. It’s very busy at work and you need to work late one evening. Your spouse has asked for alone time with you and your best friend has surprised you with a ticket and invitation to the big game.  Your “to do” list has become an obligation rather than an opportunity to prove yourself as a good parent, spouse, worker and friend.  Sometimes you must say no to opportunities before they become obligations.

Why do we have such a hard time saying no? There are two common reasons:

  • The fear of rejection.

It is human nature to try to seize every opportunity to do great things or to be thought of as a great person. Ultimately, you must ask yourself, “whose approval am I seeking? Am I seeking my own approval or someone else’s?”

  • The fear of missing out on good opportunities.

We assume that whenever opportunity knocks, we must answer the door and say yes to whatever is being offered. This is a mistake. Opportunity doesn’t equal obligation. There will always be more opportunities than there is time to pursue them. Choose your opportunities wisely.

It is important that we do not become weighed down and lose sight of our objective, in spite of a multitude of distractions.  Reward yourself with, as my daughter says, some “me time.” It will help you stay focused and restore your energy.

As a reminder in your daily life remember to never give up, never give up, never give up.

Chaplain Walter Ghosten

By Chaplain Ghosten

chaplain@lhp.net

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