All of us come to a point in our lives when we wonder what our next adventure will be. Sometimes it seems as though life is passing by faster than we want it to, especially when we are approaching the golden ages of the 70s, 80s and beyond.  I have discovered that aging gracefully by the numbers isn’t so bad after all. In fact, during these life stages, I’ve discovered that “to love and to be loved” brings me the greatest happiness. It’s all about how we view the aging process verses the alternative that can make life more joyful and happier.

Our optimism about the enjoyment of life can be obstructed only by life’s uncertain longevity. The notion about the brevity of life brings me to the one thing that I find myself doing more often and that is expressing the love I have for those I care about the most. Expressing my love to my family has become paramount in my life because it makes me the happiest. Author George Sand said,  “There is only one happiness in life, to love and to be loved.” This quote describes the whole life of a person in a single sentence. I believe that love is the only component that makes life complete and worth living.

When it comes to loving others, you need to say it. There’s a funny story about an old fisherman who had been married for 50 years and rarely took time to express his affection to his long-suffering wife. One day in frustration she asked, “How come you never tell me you love me?” Without batting an eye, he said, “I told you I loved you when I married you, and if I ever change my mind, I’ll let you know.” But people who you care about need to know that you love them by something tangible.

Your love for your wife or husband or children should be expressed often so they will know and appreciate that you care about them. Your children, your friends, and the people in your orbit of influence need the verbal assurance that you love them. The fact is you can never say “I love you” too much.

We need to show our love more frequently. Everybody needs an affirmation of love with a pat on the back every now and then. Loving is good for you! There’s nothing as rewarding, satisfying or encouraging as loving others through your words and actions. Remember throughout life’s cycle, that the happiest that you will ever be is when you express your love and when love is reciprocated! There is a scripture that I love to read. It is “love your neighbor as you would yourself.” It is this scripture that makes us realize that as humans we need to be loved and to give love. So Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never Give Up!

By Chaplain Ghosten

chaplain@lhp.net

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