Too often we focus on our problem rather than the solution to the problem. I have been guilty of this; so, do not think that you are alone with this thinking. However, we will not get to the root cause of our problem if we do not focus on a solution. As problems arise in your life, you will be tasked to become translator, negotiator, diplomat and peacekeeper. In time, you will know when to communicate and when to stay quiet, an essential skill for problem solving.
Nothing is more frustrating than being misunderstood, misheard, ignored, or misconstrued. But talking is not always the answer. Sometimes it makes the problem worse. As Albert Einstein said, “we cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”
Often times, our mistake is that we give too much verbiage to the issue that is bothering us, when we should be quiet and focus on a solution. By not talking, we give our mind a welcome rest to consider different solutions and to seek God’s wisdom. I have discovered in my lifetime that if I communicate with God through prayer, he will reveal the solution to my problem.
When there is a problem such as a difference of opinion in a relationship, we should remember that it’s not just the words we speak but also the tone of our voice that can escalate a conversation into a raging fire. From a biblical perspective, the great spiritual writer James tells us that what we say has immense power for destruction, and that “the tongue is a little member that boast about great things.” Boasting is “speaking with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities,” according to Webster’s.
Responding appropriately often requires careful reflection. Sometimes it is better just to remain quiet rather than engage in a conversation where emotions run high. When you are anxious, chances are you will talk too much. When you are angry, your words will make the situation worse. And when you are too aggressive, you will lose instead of winning in the end. The Bible says, “in quietness and confidence shall be your strength.” This is a scripture principle that always works. So, be thoughtful as you seek the solution to a problem and Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never Give Up!
By Chaplain Ghosten
chaplain@lhp.net
