This question might be on your mind today. Why do many relationships fail? The answer may very well be found in the Lord’s words: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came so that you would have life and have it abundantly.” Research suggests that 50 percent of relationships fail because they are built around the wrong things in life and often people do not know each other’s expectations.
Successful relationships are built on honesty and faithfulness. Most relationships have barely begun before outside influences start interfering. There is an interesting story in the Bible that illustrates the notion of others influencing the life of a relationship. The story of Job reveals a man who resisted the influence of others who were determined to separate Job from his relationship with God. The Bible describes these destructive forces as evil. Despite bad health, bankruptcy, and bereavement, Job never severed his relationship with God. Job was faithful and true to the Lord because he knew in the end that it was the right relationship. Job understood God’s expectations for him. We should always know each other’s expectations in a relationship so that it can survive when evil tries to destroy it.
A sustaining relationship is built on a foundation of trust, communication, and mutual respect. It takes effort and compromises from both parties, but the rewards can be significant when each person is honest and shares their feelings. Showing respect is also key to sustaining a relationship. Respect and understand your partner’s perspective and offer forgiveness and a second chance if they make a mistake.
Loyalty is another essential ingredient for a lasting relationship. You must let your partner know that you will always be there for them and expect the same loyalty in return. Job’s loyalty to God is a powerful example. Even when his wife and friends turned against him, Job knew that God would not forsake him.
Relationships often fail because neither individual is willing to forgive. Forgiveness is key to building a sustaining relationship. So, encourage each other to do better, and back each other up when things get tough. With perseverance and forgiveness, your relationship can thrive. Be blessed and Never Give Up! Never Give Up! Never Give Up!
By Dr. Walter Ghosten
chaplain@lhp.net
